Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Just Another Day
In Because It's Not, I wrote of a philosophy that I and many of my peers once shared: that birthdays and holidays really had little meaning because, in fact, they were "just another day." We defended this position and, of course, it can be easily defended on utilitarian grounds.
However, one relationship with a woman changed all that. She was the consummate planner, participant and lover of social gatherings. A discussion once ensued about my view concerning special days carried over from my youth. She made a very simple point. To her, holidays, birthdays and anniversaries were just opportunities to celebrate.
It was finally beginning to sink in. This was about nurturing the human spirit, not about living life from a practical perspective - so easy to get lost in when living in a place like New York City, where many define their existence by money, careers and other achievements. My awakening was further cemented by other conversations, particularly one that inspired my story, Let's Have a Parade - see here.
Today is my birthday, and for a number of reasons, I had indicated that I wanted no party, in spite of efforts of a number of friends to plan one. After some reflection and soul searching, I have decided to read my own writing and take my own advice. It is also a time to be less self centered and let others express their love for others and their joie de vivre. It's time to let others have a parade and share in it, not rain on it. I will be celebrating my birthday - I will not treat it like it's Just Another Day :)