Friday, January 20, 2012
A Remarkable Couple, Part 1
Although their achievements are many, I am not writing this to feature bullet points on a curriculum vitae. Hellen and Harvey are remarkable as human beings. There are many things that come to mind regarding the couple, but for anyone who has been married or in a committed relationship, one of the most incredible thing that stands out in the marriage between Hellen and Harvey is that they don't fight. Harvey told me that one of the first things Hellen asked him when they met was about his approach to conflict resolution. Anyone who has had relationship and/or marriage experience can easily understand why Harvey was so impressed with this first question.
Harvey has the mind of an engineer and is very analytical. Although trained in the hard sciences, he is also a master of understanding the dynamics of interpersonal relationships. He has formulated many unique philosophies and views, such as his concept of the necessary trinity of elements which good relationships are built on: love, trust, and mutual respect. His personal philosophies are typically deep and nuanced.
Hellen is one of the most generous people I have ever known. She is non-confrontational, yet intolerant of nonsense. They share a love of being together and meet each other's needs extremely well. Personal time and space apart is not something which they desire. At any given moment, Harvey can tell you precisely how many weeks and days they have been together, which he is frequently apt to do.
They recently celebrated their 4-year wedding anniversary. I pondered what I might give the well-heeled couple. I decided to write a toast, which I read aloud at their anniversary party. On Monday, I will publish the text of the offering here, along with a video of my reading. Then you will meet Hellen and Harvey and learn why I entitled my toast not Sweet Dreams, but Bitter Greens...
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